Time and again we hear that women love the bad boys. There are even books out on how to essentially be a jerk off and get women. And apparently some of the methods actually work! What is it about the whole bad boy thing and where do you draw the line between being a nice guy but being a jerk to see some action? There is a way to be yourself while being a so called ’bad boy’ at the same time.

One of the best lines in a movie that make women swoon comes from one of the Star Wars movies. It is when Han Solo is about to be lowered down and become frozen. The moment before he gets lowered, Princess Leah says to Han, “I love you”. And then Han Solo responds. And what he says makes women go absolutely wild with ecstasy. Han pauses, looks at Leah, and simpley says “…I know.” Isn’t it amazing that women get so turned on by Han not saying “I love you” back, but instead saying “I know”! This sums up the turn on to the bad boy mentality to a tee.

So the Han Solo character works for women. But what was it exactly about him that women appreciated? It’s the fact that he did things on his own, was confident, and took control. If we can apply these qualities to ourselves then we can mimic bad boy attitudes without going off the deep end of being a total jerk off.

Essentially there’s only three things to do:

1. Be yourself and be proud of it. Whatever you are into or whatever you do, make it a center point and be proud of your thing. Don’t waiver on this, otherwise you sound flaky and uncertain about yourself. Even if you’re not doing something you like, still flip it into serving as a launching pad for something in the future that your passionate about.

2. Take Control. Take control of situations, and give the impression that your life is your own Millenium Falcon and you steer it long, hard, and in control…most of the time. Don’t go overboard into control freak territory, rather mix in flexibility, while acknowledging, in true bad boy fashion, you are prone to "losing control" now and again.

3. Knowledge. Knowing yourself and steering your own ship requires knowledge. You should be able to back up your character, and the best way to back up a bad boy lover is to be knowledgeable as hell in the actual lover department. Essentially you want to learn how to be an amazing lover. Know the in’s and out’s, the surefire ways to please, and especially the secrets in the sack which will amaze and impress, and solidify your bad boy attraction.

With these elements combined you can guarantee that you will be on top of your bad boy game, and attractions will come your way naturally, easily, and in unbelievable abundance.