I'm extremely curious to hear from others about their view on their spouse/partner/bf enjoying porn and looking at pictures of "pretty girls." I'm totally irritated by my fiance's constant desire to download porns and pictures of women from the internet. He keeps a huge collection of them. I have again and again found them on his computer and deleted them and complained to him about how I hate them and how I see them as a form of disrespect to me - signs of dissatisfaction with my physical appearance and his desire for someone else. He argues that they mean nothing more than fun sexual pleasure, and that men are just different from women on needs ( that of course totally ticks me off). Isn't porn just a stage in sexual development during puberty and people grow out of it???? I told him if he truly loves then he'll drop them because them make me unhappy and insecure. Then he said if I love him I should just give him that freedom and accept that as part of him. URRGGHHH... What does this mean??

Wow, you have some serious boundary issues.

No. Who told you that?

It means you have serious psychological issues in regards to your own self-worth. A qualified counselor can help work with you to lead to a better life in which you do not feel victimized by your own jealousy towards the fantasy world of pornography.