Is it a turn-on for a guy if his female partner shows up out of the blue at 11:30 at night unexpectedly to surprise him and have crazy sex with him because he is such a turn-on to her? How about it guys? What is your opinion? Have you tried this ladies? Don't we have the right to be the aggressor sometimes? Because I tried that on my husband a while back, and not only did I get turned down flat, he told me that there's something wrong with our relationship if I would come home just to have sex with him. (I was going to be staying over a friend's house that night and thought it would be fun to surprise him. I'd never done anything like that in my life.) Mind you, at this point, we had only been married six months. I was deeply hurt, embarrassed and humiliated. Things have never been the same since.