A woman who loves oral sex may feel violated by a new man who dives between her legs the first time they’re in bed together. A man, who enjoys anal play, may be put off by a woman who goes there before they’ve even had intercourse. Intimacy is not a performance. It is something that develops over time. So whether you are new to sex or you are finding your groove again after a period of abstinence or the end of a long-term relationship, you are not alone in wondering how to begin (or begin again). Your best bet is to start with a few basics. Build your confidence and your partner’s trust

Yes, wait until the third date to bring out the ball-gag and leather swing.

Oh that is a very nice idea to have a ball-gag in sex. Enjoy it.