Wife and I have been married for 8 years, we gave eachother our virginity, but I had a couple experiences with another girl in college. This was before wife and I even started dating. My wife has only been with my penis. Now I had brought up the idea of watching her masturbate another guy and masturbate to that. She didn't totally flip out but just said that she could never do something like that. I don't see it as cheating because I am giving my consent. I am not asking her to **** someone else, to many possible problems....pregnancy,stds. Has any other couples done this and how did you go about this?