My girlfriend and I had reached the point that we wanted to have sex with each other a few months ago. We spent a long time building up to it and we were both finally ready. She is a virgin, but I'm not.

So when we tried it... there was a problem. I mean, I'd fingered her before that... but I was the first person (including herself) to ever put anything in her vagina. So it was a totally new experience for her. But anyway... when we tried to actually have sex, I couldn't get my penis in. It was like I was just hitting a wall. And we're relatively sure her hymen is broken, but still, no matter how much lube we used, and no matter how much she got turned out, we couldn't get it to go in.

We tried a couple more times after that, but no success.

Since then, things have gone downhill sexually. She feels like she can't get off unless there's internal stimulation (like from my finger or a dildo) but she says that whenever we put something in there, it hurts as we take it out. So we haven't really been doing a whole lot of intimate stuff these past few months.

This really sucks. And she wants to satisfy my, but she's starting to say that she feels obligated to do it and that turns her off... and she says that she wished it worked because now she feels like she's broken or messed up somehow.

I love her and I wouldn't leave her over something like this... I just really wish we could move past it because it's causing a lot of tension and frustration.

Have any of you ever experienced this? What did you do about it?