My girlfriend and I were thinking about having sex for the first time. And we are both virgins. But i've read about it, and having sex the first few times really hurts the girl supposedly. She's all for it, but i don't want to hurt her. I would hate to see her wince at any kind of pain, especially if im causing it.

To make it worse, im a virgin too. I wont know what i'm doing. What if i cant even find the vagina cause its blocked by the hymen. What if i try to insert my penis into her urethra?! That would be terrible. What if im doing something terribly wrong but she wont know because she wouldn't know any better either.

Maybe while im doing something wrong she's thinking in her mind, oh its okay, its supposed to hurt the first few times. How easy is it to break the hymen? I plan to go slow but if i go too slow will it still break?