I have a relationship for many years. She is the girl of my dreams. We have perfect sex, very often and we try several new things.

We had a gangbang, me, her and an other guy we met once (we were drunk that night). We had a gangbang with him many times after that and we both enjoyed it.

I am a hetero, I never tried or wanted to try touching the other guy.

But that was the sexiest experience of my life and my GF was even more excited.

The thing is now I often picture her having sex with other guys, cheating on me etc and I get really horny. I find myself getting hard on the idea of her cheating on me.

I told her about this only when we are both horny, so she accepted this as a fantasy. I don't know if I have to tell her about my thoughts when we are not horny, because I think she will **** other guys right away and I am not sure about this yet, because I might regret it.

Any advice?

No ... she is ur g.f and how the hell you think that ...??? strange

yeah this is really strange. I am a girl by the way. Well I have fantacys of my fiancee with someone else but thats just it they are only fantacys. If he ever cheated on me I would be devistanted. i only talk to him about this when we are gettin it on and when we are talkin dirty to each other. I think that it is really weird that you ACTUALLY want her to do someone else. Its different if its just a little fantacy you share when your with your girl or while alone but to actually want it? Reevaluate what you have said. how would you feel if she actually did cheat on you? Is she cool with it? Talk to her and if you are both willing to go through with this then go for it, but I advise you that if you really love this girl seeing her with somone else will hurt you

Yes, I agreed with " mburen0001 ", just ask yourself do you really love your girl friend ?

if you do so, you can not ever see her - having a sex with other guys. It will hurts you more and will give lots of pain. Think seriously about this. And regarding having the word with gf then if she is also deeply attached with you, your question may hurt you. So, be careful for this and think on it again n again .

BTW mburen0001, welcome to the men's health forum ! It's great to have you here with us.

...judging by your post ..i advise you and your girlfriend to attend your local Geno Urinary clinic ASAP ..as i can see this is a UK post ..the times and days to attend your local GU clinics are changing ..leaflets regarding that plus all the info you may require are available in your doctors surgery ...you dont need an appointment to attend a GU clinic ..if your unsure phone them to ask what day you may come along ..you will be offered confidential advice and any tests that you or the cinic feels you should take ..from your post you are high risk for chlamydia and ghonnoreah !

Yes Kely ..i have re read your post ...i felt it was priority to give you the sexual health advice ..you ..plus your girlfriend are lacking ...opne or two other important comments id like to make on your post ...
"we have perfect sex" ...obviously kelvy ..your not having perfect sex ..that is a fact mate ..why are you kidding yourself ? its just that you have YET to experience PERFECT sex !! you dont have anything to compare that to thus your saying your situation is perfect ..in fact what you should of said is that i find i disrespect my girlfriend ...im in this for sex ...i dont mind somebody else using her and in fact i get off on that ..and i also get on on the fact i am putting somebody i profess to have a "perfect relationship" with at risk of the many sti that are out there ...the fact that you say you are both drunk ..isnt very good either ..are you totally sure your not using her as a "drinking buddy "

your other comment .."i find myself getting hard on the idea of her cheating on me ..thats telling all of us that look i dont respect her ..thats it..in a nutshell ...its NORMAL human behaviour to feel protective and caring about somebody you think a lot about the female sexual partner (unless its a one night stand or your just using her for sex) Observe the behaviour of monkeys ..in fact the WHOLE of the animal kingdom ..including DOGS they show you the mating ..courtship patterns and even after copulation male species still is protective and shows jelousy or aggressive behaviour if the female is approached aby another male ,..in fact when you think about this ...the animal kingdom often behaves with a lot more RESPECT than humans ...

If you want to swing or have other sexual partners the kindest thing to do would be to leave this woman ..before something goes wrong and dont have ANY steady relationships with females until you have grown up or sowed your wild oats so to speak ! Also i hope your prepared to accept the fact that the way your "relationship" is described in the post ..your girlfriend may have already been seeing other guys ..quite likely she has WITHOUT informing you ....how are you about that ? is that idea still making you feel sexy ? ...think about it ...

man, if you really loves her and trust on her then this kind of feelings can not ever come into your mind. Make it for sure your feelings towards the girl are really true or you just want her to have a sex ? ? ? ? ? ?? ? ?

Some people live perfectly happily in "open marriages." Is it normal? That's your question to answer to yourself. Obviously you have seen posters who think it is not normal, or at least not preferable.
I personally would not like to be part of an open relationship, but some people would prefer it to a "closed" relationship. If your girlfriend was open to a gang-bang, she'd probably be okay with an open relationship.
But like others have said, do you really love her? If you do, and still want to be in an open relationship, you two need to sit down and seriously talk this out.
Good luck with that!

Why has my posts been removed ..this is obsene ..carnt believe it ..just carnt ..are all the posters on here WOMEN youmean all along ive been posting to woman ..pretending to be MEN ..your removing my posts ..the same as what happend on womens ..you dont know the truth ..they are all a bunch of ****ing lesbians ..when they find out your staight ..christ you pay for it !

I think that the thrill and excitement sometimes overwhelms us... We get caught up in the "exotic" and forget the "disasters" that may happen as a result.

I also think that open relationships are "scary" it's the un-known that the other person my fall for someone else.

Fantasy is harmless and can also spice up your life with those thoughts, keep that in tact is my "opinion"

Or you are asking for a danger zone you may possibly not be able to get out of.

CW ( Riconus)