Yes I most certainly understand. The self hatred, anger, etc. Lexapro is the only I have ever tried and feel satisfied with it so no desire to try something different. As for the weight gain, it is one of the stated side effects. However, I am 43 and don't exercise so can't say I blame all 20 pounds on it, lol. I can't say if it helps with anxiety because that was/is a issue with me.
Oh on another note, have you guys noticed if you dream more or less? I seem to dream less, or I just don't remember them. Really don't know if that matters or not.