HisWoman

Strip clubs is a "man thing". I am trying to get that.

Can a man be happy with his woman sexually and physically, but still have a desire to see other womans a-$ and tits in a strip club?

My man told me that is why he went to see some a-- and tits. I am very upset and offended by this. I can't fathom how it is justified... you are in a relationship but you want to see other womans boobs and butt in your face. Is that not disrespectful to your woman? How can a man look his woman in the eyes and say, I want to see other womans butt and boobs.

Of course, that makes me insecure and wonder. He is desiring for another womans body. He may not want her emotionally and spiritually but he does physically.

My man went to a strip club, lied about it and then acted like it was no big deal. He actually told me why he went with a smile on his face, no regard to how it made me feel. This has hurt me more than he knows, or even cares.

Right now I can't get into it with him cause he has major stress on him with the job. He just started a management position and has been told once he is on his own (trainer gone) then it is a sink or swim deal so I don't want to fight/talk about this at the current moment. I will wait a until he feels more secure in his job (a week or so) but I also need to tell him how I feel about his desire for tits and butt in his face. I fear he won't care (he told me straight out last night without caring how I felt).

How would it make you men feel to know, your woman wants a mans part (d--k) in her face?

Greydog72

Sorry that you having problems.

First of all, I think more is need to be known about your situation.

Are you married or a couple?
assuming that you are living together?
How long have you been together?
things like that.

Now, do I think it is right....no. But I'm not every man. I do know of men who do that and their wives have no problem with it, but personally I couldn't do that. And if most men where given the ok from their partners, I think more men would go to strip clubs.

HisWoman

Background - Just a couple, we plan to get married, we would be planning it now if we had the money, been together 2 years, we have 2 children, one which I had before we got together (at this point he is her father). We also have a 9 month old boy.

CHANDLERS WISH

I would be more concerned, about the lying and smiling at you whilst telling you why he went and that he doesn't care about how you feel about it.

Like " I am all man, get over it woman, your just the little woman".....

I wouldn't marry a man like that if you paid me, even if I had a child to him......

I can't see how you can accomplish anything by discussing it with him, he's told you outright, I don't care how you feel.

I think you need to re-assess why your in this relationship personally.

CW

skyhawk

Myself, anytime I was in a serious relationship or married I never went to a strip club. My woman seemed to satisfy me enough where the desire to go never really entered my mind. Now I have posted in similar threads that I tho't it would be ok for one to go on his bachelor party night as long as it's kept off base to be hands on!

I think I understand how the threader feels and I do sympathize with her.

Myself I wouldn't want my SO going to see the opposite sex doing his thing in front of her

When you are Window shopping like that so to speak there's always the chance the person will end up desiring the real thing, maybe not there but the 1st chance it could happen it just may happen! Especially to one that maybe lacking in temperance.

Victoria

Yes, is not a big deal. I will tell you why.
1- The mans lied us because know that we will make a problem with that !
2- He just watching! If he make it at home do you fell better if is porn.
The problem is if he make it every night or how often he go to strip club?
Don't worry about that all mans do it !

DragonJoe76

I hate comments like this because it is simply NOT TRUE! How do I know? Because I don't do it. And if I'm not doing it, then not ALL men do it.

I do not know why men go to strip clubs. To me it seems so stupid. Why pay all that money to some stranger to get you all worked up when you can't do anything about it? I tell the guys at work, if they were to pay half that attention to their women, they would have something so much better.

Miss, if I were you I wouldn't marry that guy. IMHO, he's not ready for marriage.

To be fair, somebody mentioned the porn thing. I admit I had a problem with that... still get tempted from time to time... But I quit because my focus should be on my wife / family... not some 2D photo / video.

Like I said, just MHO.

Sunshine

I would also be extremely bothered if my man went to a strip club. No women would want their man going some where else to see another woman boobs and butt all in his face...I feel that men go to these type of place cause there is something missing at home or just no completely satisfied of the total package they have. For that you might as well be single and go to as many strip clubs as you like and have then all shaking their stuff in your face.

I've never had my partner tell me that he is going to a strip club. It was told to me by my partner we are going to a strip club and I said no we are not. He then said well I'll go with someone else...I just got heated up inside. I said to him then you might as well not come home. He thought that I was over reacting...I don't think so. We've been together over a year and he hasn't been to one that I know of but this will not start especially not with me.

I just don't get why do men have to have other women shake their stuff in their face and not consider their lady feelings. I think it's just thinking with something else and wishing that the striper was their woman.

CHANDLERS WISH

Sunshine, there is nothing wrong at all with getting all dressed up and putting on some music, such as " you can leave your hat on" and dancing in candlelit to same, in a sexy fashion, whilst taking your clothes off for your man.....

Perhaps women get to in-hibited and think that it's "tarty" to do anything like that?

Personally, the more you spice up your relationship I think, (goes both ways), the more you love intimacy and fun, and maybe they don't need to go to such places, or if they do, they recall ,remember, what's home waiting for them, a lady on the outset, and his in bed, (visa versa).

CW

SinisterUrge

Naked women and beer. I got the concept right away.
Yes
I'm sorry
Yes
Sorry, I wasn't aware that my woman was property. If she wants to go to the strip-club she can go.
Its called "Telling the truth"
Yes
It wasn't a big deal until you made it a big deal.
If you're that insecure in your own appearance..... nothing we say on the internet is going to make you feel better.
You are involved with a sexually active heterosexual man. Maybe you'd be happier dating a sixty year old with erectile dysfunction.
Yes, I've been quite familiar with whole "women like sex" theory for a few years now. I'm fine with it.