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endzone · 11-30-2008, 07:37 PM

Just curious if any guys out there, especially somewhat older, married ones have ever received attention from considerably younger, attractive women and how you handled it. Not to sound like a bragger, but that has happened to me on two occassions recently at my gym. When at the gym I keep to myself and just go about my business, so I was rather taken aback when I noticed two attractive young ladies on separate occassions making obvious flirting attempts toward me. Seriously, I was not imagining this. They however did not start a conversation although I'm pretty sure they wanted me to begin one.

This was the kind of scenario that many guys would have grabbed with both hands. Although flattered, I felt embarassed probably because I knew they were young enough to be my daughters, plus I am married. I guess the only reason I bring this up, is that now that I didn't respond to them, I can tell they think I'm a real egotistical jerk. You know what I mean? You can tell some things without any words being exchanged.

Ladies (and guys), did I do the right thing by ignoring them? Or should I have at least talked to them and they would have found out my situation? I think possibly that I didn't want them to know and preferred to remain "mysterious".

CHANDLERS WISH · 12-01-2008, 05:27 AM

Then you did what you wanted, and that's important, you should be you.

If they were young enough to be your daughters, your married and obviously not looking at straying, you owe no-one an explanation.

I think you did the right thing.

Flirting is all good if light with the right intentions, not to a child/ sort of....

CW

**mjcobxx** · 12-01-2008, 06:23 AM

Yes you are correct.. Do not talk with them.. If any situation come to talk with them then talked as professional one.. So that they came to know you are not interested in flirting games.

n01 · 12-06-2008, 03:30 PM

it's never wrong to be nice. light flirting is always OK too, as long as you make the boundaries known.

**kksmith3** · 12-08-2008, 04:45 AM

I am also agree with n01.. You can start talking with them... But it is also necessary to follow your boundaries..

11-30-2008, 07:37 PM	#1
endzone Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4	Unexpected Attention Just curious if any guys out there, especially somewhat older, married ones have ever received attention from considerably younger, attractive women and how you handled it. Not to sound like a bragger, but that has happened to me on two occassions recently at my gym. When at the gym I keep to myself and just go about my business, so I was rather taken aback when I noticed two attractive young ladies on separate occassions making obvious flirting attempts toward me. Seriously, I was not imagining this. They however did not start a conversation although I'm pretty sure they wanted me to begin one. This was the kind of scenario that many guys would have grabbed with both hands. Although flattered, I felt embarassed probably because I knew they were young enough to be my daughters, plus I am married. I guess the only reason I bring this up, is that now that I didn't respond to them, I can tell they think I'm a real egotistical jerk. You know what I mean? You can tell some things without any words being exchanged. Ladies (and guys), did I do the right thing by ignoring them? Or should I have at least talked to them and they would have found out my situation? I think possibly that I didn't want them to know and preferred to remain "mysterious".

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12-01-2008, 05:27 AM	#2
CHANDLERS WISH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 336	Then you did what you wanted, and that's important, you should be you. If they were young enough to be your daughters, your married and obviously not looking at straying, you owe no-one an explanation. I think you did the right thing. Flirting is all good if light with the right intentions, not to a child/ sort of.... CW

12-01-2008, 06:23 AM	#3
mjcobxx Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 573 Blog Entries: 5	Yes you are correct.. Do not talk with them.. If any situation come to talk with them then talked as professional one.. So that they came to know you are not interested in flirting games.

12-06-2008, 03:30 PM	#4
n01 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4	it's never wrong to be nice. light flirting is always OK too, as long as you make the boundaries known.

12-08-2008, 04:45 AM	#5
kksmith3 Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 657 Blog Entries: 5	I am also agree with n01.. You can start talking with them... But it is also necessary to follow your boundaries..