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**galyaone** · 11-07-2008, 08:59 AM

My husband and i had a awful fight lastnight - he just would not give it up and the kids were there, He said stuff that tore my heart out. My two kids are 9 and 7 his kids are 11 and 5 and they heard it all- i begged him to take in the other room and quiet down but he said out loud that he did not care. He said i hope my kids go home and tell my ex how miserable my life is married to a stupid B and told me that it took 14 yrs for his exwife and him to get to how he feels now and only 1yr with me. he said that he fall out of love with me months ago and that he dreads me. Dreads looking at me, touching me and hearing my voice. tells me that i ruined everything about his life. Said he does not crave me. Then said all he wanted to say - cut me off everything i tried to say then told me shut my mouth and go to bed or was leaving the house and i would regret what happened- Then he slept in daughters room. What a butt.. Today he just said he was sorry and acts like nothing happened - I felt like i needed to not just let it go and wanted to talk but he got all mad again and told me that he was glad that my lunch break was over so that he could get off the phone. then told me not to call him back from work the rest of the day even if i am hurt or he would not be home when i get home from work - Then hung up telling me "My life is miserable - you make me miserable- you disguist me". I called my 7yo daughter on her cell phone to tell her that i loved her and to check in - he is keeping all 4 kids and she said cried wanting me home said that all day he was mean to her and my son and was letting his girls do whatever they wanted - said that he would not give them drink or anything. I guess he taking it out on my kids. I dread even going home today... I might call him just so that he will leave....

Dookie20 · 11-07-2008, 09:03 AM

I would get your kids and get out of Dodge. You don't deserve to be treated like that and neither do your kids.

**galyaone** · 11-08-2008, 08:15 AM

Yes.... I think you are right!!

I have to think about my life and self-respect

CHANDLERS WISH · 11-16-2008, 04:16 PM

I think that the 14 years before you were brewing and once he was able to lash out, it is now in him. So, firstly don't you dare, take the "and it took you 1 year to do what she did in 14" trick...

He is manipulating and abusive simple.

He is playing all the cards and trying to bring you down to your lowest level, he has no respect what so ever, so you don't need him as a husband rather, he needs to go sleep in a gutter and feel what it is like, as that is the way he is talking like gutter trash, sorry but it is.

Your kids are your priority first then you, he is not in the aquation so get them out and you and let him drift off into his angry tantrum non existant world that will get him no where in life.

CW

**adam001** · 11-18-2008, 07:12 AM

Very critical condition in life ,,hard to decide..some times it is proper to be selfish and here is your life and your children so never copromise...

thack · 11-21-2008, 07:09 AM

that is not a situation I would ever put someone I loved in, I dont understand some people.

Protect your children, and yourself as well. Anyone who can say something like that to their "spouse" is not a "spouse" themselves, IMHO

CHANDLERS WISH · 11-24-2008, 02:21 PM

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Protect your children, and yourself as well.

Very true... how can someone be a Father, speaking like that and in front of his children as well, i am sure.

CW

**jsmithxx** · 11-25-2008, 06:27 AM

Yes.. I do agree with you... You have to think before talk anything in front of your child...

Because they are too much sensitive

CHANDLERS WISH · 11-26-2008, 03:12 PM

Well, in addition to being sensitive, what they learn young, they take into their teenage life, and then adult life... It can destroy their beliefs in relationships and change the whole way the view life, from bad experiences.

Sort of not giving them a chance to have a happy life with love and hope.

CW

**jsmithxx** · 11-27-2008, 06:09 AM

Yes... Very true..... I agree with you ...

11-07-2008, 08:59 AM	#1
galyaone Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 596 Blog Entries: 12	It just keeps getting worse... My husband and i had a awful fight lastnight - he just would not give it up and the kids were there, He said stuff that tore my heart out. My two kids are 9 and 7 his kids are 11 and 5 and they heard it all- i begged him to take in the other room and quiet down but he said out loud that he did not care. He said i hope my kids go home and tell my ex how miserable my life is married to a stupid B and told me that it took 14 yrs for his exwife and him to get to how he feels now and only 1yr with me. he said that he fall out of love with me months ago and that he dreads me. Dreads looking at me, touching me and hearing my voice. tells me that i ruined everything about his life. Said he does not crave me. Then said all he wanted to say - cut me off everything i tried to say then told me shut my mouth and go to bed or was leaving the house and i would regret what happened- Then he slept in daughters room. What a butt.. Today he just said he was sorry and acts like nothing happened - I felt like i needed to not just let it go and wanted to talk but he got all mad again and told me that he was glad that my lunch break was over so that he could get off the phone. then told me not to call him back from work the rest of the day even if i am hurt or he would not be home when i get home from work - Then hung up telling me "My life is miserable - you make me miserable- you disguist me". I called my 7yo daughter on her cell phone to tell her that i loved her and to check in - he is keeping all 4 kids and she said cried wanting me home said that all day he was mean to her and my son and was letting his girls do whatever they wanted - said that he would not give them drink or anything. I guess he taking it out on my kids. I dread even going home today... I might call him just so that he will leave....

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11-07-2008, 09:03 AM	#2
Dookie20 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 15	I would get your kids and get out of Dodge. You don't deserve to be treated like that and neither do your kids.

11-08-2008, 08:15 AM	#3
galyaone Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 596 Blog Entries: 12	Yes.... I think you are right!! I have to think about my life and self-respect

11-16-2008, 04:16 PM	#4
CHANDLERS WISH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 336	I think that the 14 years before you were brewing and once he was able to lash out, it is now in him. So, firstly don't you dare, take the "and it took you 1 year to do what she did in 14" trick... He is manipulating and abusive simple. He is playing all the cards and trying to bring you down to your lowest level, he has no respect what so ever, so you don't need him as a husband rather, he needs to go sleep in a gutter and feel what it is like, as that is the way he is talking like gutter trash, sorry but it is. Your kids are your priority first then you, he is not in the aquation so get them out and you and let him drift off into his angry tantrum non existant world that will get him no where in life. CW

11-18-2008, 07:12 AM	#5
adam001 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 351 Blog Entries: 6	Very critical condition in life ,,hard to decide..some times it is proper to be selfish and here is your life and your children so never copromise...

11-21-2008, 07:09 AM	#6
thack Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 6	that is not a situation I would ever put someone I loved in, I dont understand some people. Protect your children, and yourself as well. Anyone who can say something like that to their "spouse" is not a "spouse" themselves, IMHO

11-25-2008, 06:27 AM	#8
jsmithxx Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 593 Blog Entries: 12	Yes.. I do agree with you... You have to think before talk anything in front of your child... Because they are too much sensitive

11-26-2008, 03:12 PM	#9
CHANDLERS WISH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 336	Well, in addition to being sensitive, what they learn young, they take into their teenage life, and then adult life... It can destroy their beliefs in relationships and change the whole way the view life, from bad experiences. Sort of not giving them a chance to have a happy life with love and hope. CW

11-27-2008, 06:09 AM	#10
jsmithxx Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 593 Blog Entries: 12	Yes... Very true..... I agree with you ...