My DH left his cellphone home, since the last time that was one way I found out about him and the other lady, I went through it. He had her name and phone numbers (yes plural, work, work cell, home and her cell). Then he had her birthday on his cell calendar. I lost it. Am I a fool to believe that he did not know the phone numbers were there and that he programmed in her birthday LAST year for this year? I am so tired of trying to believe him. The therapist said not to go through the phone records and look for this stuff. He changed again. He started bringing home stuff he removed and took me shopping again. Please I need someone's input besides the therapist's and a close friend. The friend thinks he is just playing it along until I file to save his reputation and since there is a wedding in the other woman's family coming up to save that also. Please, please talk to me.