I've only posted here a couple of times, but lurk quite a bit. I've been hesitant to actually ask for advice and air my "dirty laundry", but I’m completely lost as to what to do next. So, please offer any advice you think will even help a smidgen, I’m desperate... LOL. So, here’s the scoop: I am 24 (will be 25 in May) and my DH is 24 (will be 25 in Nov.), we’ve known each other since Kindergarten, we graduated together & stayed in touch after high school. We never seriously dated in school, but I’ve always had a special place in my heart for him, and from what he has told me, the feeling was mutual. We finally started dating in Feb. 2005, he moved in w/ me shortly after since he didn’t have a place of his own & didn’t (doesn’t) really have much of a relationship w/ his mom; in Feb. 2006 we got our own place together. He proposed to me in Mar. 2007 & we were married in Dec. 2007. So, except for him moving in w/ me shortly after we started dating, I think we’ve moved at a fairly decent pace; not too slow, not too fast.
Anyway, several months after we started dating I noticed that his drinking bothered me. I knew that he drank before we started dating, but never knew how much he was capable of drinking, I guess. Now, since we’ve been married, he has left w/ his "buddies" to go drinking (against my wishes) & not returned until the next day, twice, in about a month & a half’s time. The first time this happened, we had been bickering at each other most of the day & he told me later that he just couldn’t handle it anymore & had to get away. But, the 2nd time, we were fine w/ each other. He came in & asked if I minded if he went & I told him that I wished he wouldn’t & he turned around & walked out the door!