I have been married almost 14 years. Our communication has never been strong. (my fault!) We have an active sex life, but I don't think we "know" each other even after 20 years. We are so close to divorce (not my choice), and I want to fight to keep our marriage and make it stronger. How do I show my husband my desire to bring our relationship to a higher level of intimacy. How do we get past years of hurt, mistrust, my lies of changing only to stay the same, and start to grow the small glimpses of love and what it could be that I see at times>