We have been married for 13 years - 2nd marriages for both. My husband has A.D.D. and is on medication which has now become nothing more than a placebo. The problems started years ago when I noticed that he forgot often, then I noticed that he never initiated sex. My husband says he loves me, but it is like being married to a child or a puppy. He pays far more attention to our dogs, his hobbies, TV, computer. He loves to talk, but is unable to listen for more than a few minutes. I cannot tell you how many marriage seminars, christian and secular marriage counselors, couples' groups we have attended. My husband is all gung ho for a couple of weeks, then it's over. We have seen A.D.D. specialists, who give homework, but he doesn't do it. He walks around happy most of the time and gets angry when I bring up the marriage. I am embarrassed that I allow myself to be treated this way - we teach people how to treat us. No sex in a marriage is bizarre, especially whe you live in a culture and listen to lectures and sermons and read book after book stating that men NEED sex. But in the A.D.D. world, sex is a major problem in marriage. It's all or nothing, and then because they stay up late, there is no time management to make it happen. I wish I could disappear instead of going through a divorce. I know that my husband would miss me for awhile, but he would get over it quickly, or just find someone else to charm. I am tired of praying.