I have been married to my spouse for nearly 38 years and I feel like we do not have intimacy on any level. We just kind of get by day by day. My husband is oblivious to a need for relationship and is apparently happy. I am not. I have tried talking to him and my needs but since he is happy, he considers this a bad attitude on my part. He will not go to counseling. I made a commitment on my weddimg day that I desire to keep. Where do I start and what can I do?