SDM

Hi. I have some marital problems and wanted to see what other guys think. I have been married for almost 10 years. Last summer, my wife filed for divorce and threw me out of the house. I can’t be sure, but I think she was cheating on me but she still won’t admit it. After a few weeks, she started begging for me to move back. She even used the kids (ages 7, 5, and 3) to get me back. I was mad and didn’t trust her (I still don’t) but I went back anyway. Mainly I went back because it was easier to have another adult in the house. Come to find out that the reason she wanted me back was because she couldn’t pay the bills but by then I didn’t want to hurt the kids and move out again. Without getting into too many details, she promised me all kinds of stuff to get me back home again, none of which she has done. She is a ***** to me and my family and all she wants to do is sleep and spend money and she can’t do this without my paycheck. I know the marriage won’t last much longer, but I want to keep the family together until the kids are older. How much longer should I put up with this ****?

CHANDLERS WISH

You shouldn't full stop.

How long can you live in a house knowing that your being used?

In a loveless relationship...

Children will undertand when they grow up and unfortunately you will have to put up with her for at least a further 12 - 15 years.

But, better spending 50% of your income on your children, then 100% on her?

Don't you think?

SDM

I know that you are right but I'm old fashioned and want the kids to grow up in a two parent house. On the other hand, she is getting to the point where she just doesn't know what she wants and is making my life miserable because she isn't happy.

sal

True mate!!!!!

SDM

My wife is still driving me crazy. One day she wants to move away and start over, the next she wants to go back to school and try a different career. I know the pattern. As soon as she starts something new, she quits. I still do not want to leave because of the kids, but it's getting to the point that she isn't worth being married to anymore.

SDM

I recently found out that my wife's sisters are getting exactly what my wife wants. One is marrying a rich man and the other is moving. She is going to be a witch. Send good thoughts my way.

funguyfff

i think this has been very serious issue..as you are thinking of your children...as your separation may affect your children lives ...so think once before reaching t any decision and discuss your thought and opinions with your wife with patience

SDM

Thats the point. I can't discuss anything with her. Nobody can. It's her way and her way only. She even went off on a cop a few weeks ago because of a car accident. Shes lucky he didn't throw her in jail but she knew they wouldn't becuase her dad is a political figure. I hate the holidays coming up because it is going to be nothing but fighting about money and whose family to spend time with.

samee

SDM, can't you think about divorce ? ? ?
As you said I didn't see your own life anywhere since you got married . .unfortunately you got married with a women who was not able to being your behalf . . what have you been waited yet for ? why didn't you get separated from such a sick women ? how could you spend your life with her ?

CHANDLERS WISH

As each day goes by you are feeling more and more like your locked up in a cage, unable to get out..

But, the thing is "you have the key".....

Time to open the door I think and get out...

You know that she reeled you back in to assist in her financials and lifestyle, as I said way back, 50% to the kids is better than 100% to her..

You can do it, as Sammee said

As I said, you have the key.

CW