I am 32 years old and married for 8 years. Our first child is 1 year old. We currently have sex about once a month, largely due to a lack of sleep... The problem now is that I orgasm before I have even penetrated properly with obvious embarrasing consequences. I think it is due to too much friction trying to penetrate and not enough lubrication, although we do foreplay. There is also no way that I can have a second erection within an hour. Is this a problem in itself? We have never used lubrication before. What is a safe lubricant and can I get it from a pharmacy?

Hey Funkyguy,

There are creams and topics you can use which actually cause a numbness feeling in the penis. I have tried them once or twice and they do work but be careful which ones you buy, some can cause rashes, this article refers to these creams: Premature Ejaculation Creams

Hope that info helps, let me know how it goes. Oh and masturbating to the point of no return several times over has helped me allot as well.

Also, you might want to try a lubricated condom. I know most do not like them! But, it will take some of the sensation away from you and allow you to go longer and add lubrication. Then, when you are ready (or when she's ready), take the condom off and continue. It really couldn't hurt to try it once. Keep us posted with what you try and your results. Best of luck.

Hi i think if you begin to think of using lubrication as actually hightening sexual pleasure ..rather than an aid to delay orgasm ..or something that a woman requires because some men tend to think they "need" to use it perhaps becuse the woman is lacking in her own natural lubrication ..that may be so ..for some women but in gerneral it will enhance the whole experience ..and i have to say im really really surprised in 8 years you have never used it ..but please dont take offence at that ..i just think that in 8 years you have missed out a little bit ..so do get some ...and good luck with that .

Regarding the types of lubrication ..there are many on the market ..i personally would use the very best you can get ...they can be expensive but ..can you put a price on love ? no ..i dont think so ...i would try one with no parabens..no petrochemicals ..non sticky ..water based ..and a natural product such as sylk ..or something like pre -seed they do one for couples trying to concieve and one just for fun ! also some products that are very compatable for the woman and will leave a slight warming or tingling sensation for the gy and woman is the bio-fem range of products for female can be used as lubricant ...its made in holland and its a totally natural product ..all of these are safe to use with condoms ..(for guys reading who are practising safe sex ) ...Regarding sex in general ..i would try to work something out about the frequency ..as once a month really is not enough perhps you could arrange for parents , sisters or brothers or childminder (trusted carer ) to mind your child for a few hours one evening while you have a romantic dinner and have some special time with each other including lovemaking .

It is very possible for a young guy such as yourself to have more than one erection and orgasm after the first one ..take some time to discover and be close and perhps relaxing and not rushing you will be pleasantly surprised . Some men a lot lot older can do it and thats 4 times in a couple of hours without aids such as viagra ..but your younger so im sure it wont be a problem ..

Best wishes

Yes, I agree with Olivia-Grace

thanks for sharing !

Will try it out !