I'm a 30 year old female who has been with my 33yr. old boyfriend for about a year and a half. He has a continual problem with keeping erections. It's very frusterating and has slowly dissolved our relationship. I've tried to be supportive, do other things, encourage him, and have tried not to add to the pressure he says he constantly feels. However, it has gone on for so long that I feel that our sex life has become more of a science experiment than the passiionate intimate spontaneous communion i feel we should have at this point. It's extremely difficlut not to take this personally. He keeps telling me it's him, it's in his own mind but it wears on a girl!! I have never experienced this before. I am currently at the point of total and complete frusteration and anger because it has gone on so long that it's affecting every aspect of our relationship.
Is it possible that this has now become a habitual response from his body? Is it even possible to have a normal sex life with this man? He has tried viagra with success but it upsets him that to have good sex he has to medicate himself. What can I do for him? How do I support him when it seems like this is never going to change? What can I do to help him get over the psychological issue in his own mind?(all the doctors he's seen say it is indeed psychological).
Help!!!