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Old 05-20-2008, 02:42 PM   #11
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Darling, thanks again.

And love, he's past being a cop, he's an advisor.

One date with a cop and your hell bent on this? Hate to see what would have happened if they were all cops?

Frankly, i might also just want a good "..............." and will be getting that 10 fold Sure i have written that around 10 times so far, but then that to is my priogrative i'm a mature woman who knows exactly what i want, and well, go gets it.

So, if it turns out, it turns out... More power to me for conversing with a man for 6 months, meeting him, then seeing who moves where, when... See this is not an "affair", just a bloody good affair love.

Have no idea why your posting to me on this to start with?
I purely answered a thread.
Never mind.....

We shall leave our opinions where they sit i feel, in your mind, instead of written, do you think?
Ric , youve got yourself into a bit of a state , i think youve made it clear by saying "Frankly, i might just want a good ......!! it was pretty obvious !!! ...oh dear dont you feel a little ashamed of admitting your desparate !! ...come on ric , have a little bit of pride in yourself ! bunny boilers tend to scare men away ...
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Old 05-20-2008, 02:47 PM   #12
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Ric , youve got yourself into a bit of a state , i think youve made it clear by saying "Frankly, i might just want a good ......!! it was pretty obvious !!! ...oh dear dont you feel a little ashamed of admitting your desparate !! ...come on ric , have a little bit of pride in yourself ! bunny boilers tend to scare men away ...
Il just correct you on something ric, we dont have any such thing called an "advisor" here , there is no such word !! sorry, nice try !! oh and yes thank you for your mesge telling me you ARE 45 ..then in the next mail , your 44 then the next one your 45. I still am unaware of your gender , but thats your business ...oh MY GOSH
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Old 05-20-2008, 06:03 PM   #13
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Oh dear, it doesn't end does it?



INTERNET DATING:- (Long distance)

In order to keep to the thread.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with Internet dating. It becomes evident that it may be long distance from the initial facts put in front of you. In my instance, he will be moving shortly, perhaps not my State, then it will be a choice of if i move or not.

Internet dating, can allow you to share experiences, photos, phone calls, texts, MSN, all same methods of normal of course face to face is not possible.

The beauty of it, is that you have much more time to get to know each other than you would do, had you met at a bar, gone out on one date, then a second and formed a bond of sorts, commencing a relationship and finding out that he / she was a total loser, jerk.

With time up your sleeves, you can in fact get "to know someone" intimately, not necessarily sexually, intimate has a meaning of its own.

I have already covered the fact that "do your checking", it is a dangerous assumption to assume that the person you are talking to is real. Some guys, and i have kept a few "MSN" only friends from my experience, tell of women who post old, 10 year old photos, when they meet, ahh.. So it is pertinent to do all the checking you can.

Fortunately, past employment affords me very good access, Private Investigations, and contacts... Not all have that luxury so ensure you check for sure.

In a poll of men and women of "friends" over the past 6 months including family, all have agreed " at least you have had 6 months to get to know him, know how you feel and whether you want to pursue "long distance or not"... This is true.. 6 months is a long time.

Downside, of course is lack of sexuality in real life. You have a person you intend to meet " to see where it goes" as frankly even he has said, " you have to meet" to know this. And, paying for a plain fair from "one side of the world" to the other, thousands not hundreds, shows a lot i feel... So, being faithful is something else that is highly important in long distant relationships.

In fact, the day we meet is 12 months to the day, i left my ex-husband whom was abusive emotionally and verbally, which no woman should remain in, but 12 months is without a doubt, a long time and i wouldn't have it any other way.



Interesting that i have never posted here on this Forum my age, not that i care, I'm a proud, as i certainly don't look my age. Must be that i run businesses, and know how to present myself.. Still have the long hair... But i am 44... Until the day i turn 45, then I'm 44.. Good number double whammy.

Regarding the word "advisor" merely stating that we are mature a cop is a young rookie, he is way above that teaching and well, i do know that for a fact but never the less, we'll let that go shall we.



Totally amusing, ...... After 6 months waiting and communicating and lusting, desiring, absolutely... I would say it again.... but then any man or woman would knowing that they will soon be together.... Pretty normal, could be a romantic story to write... lol.. ashamed? 12 months of virginity with a hoard of guys trying to change my mind to go out with them without success, na, no where near ashamed, extremely proud in fact... Interesting watching some little devils trying to be devils advocate. Very.



Lets hope the women whom allow men to chat them up, only for them to find out later, that they are in-deed married, once fallen for them, work out how to "find out" more first about the man and not be so naive.

There are good and bad in every job specification and every person, necessity to have the knowledge to weed out the good from the bad.

But then once mastered, it can be amusing letting them know you know.... bugger, they have to find another sucker.




I was specific in as much as i "stated" i CAN have kids. Certainly at my age it's the further est from my mind.. I wouldn't actually even discuss, nor have i discussed this with this man, nor have i stated that i have. We are both aware that i have no children, that is all that needs to be said at this point in time.

What will be, will be... The whole purpose of meeting is to establish, there is more, much more than talking babies, marriage, living arrangements.

In fact the only thing we wish to establish, is if the laughter, good communication, common ground, interests, perspectives, way of thinking, cheekiness, in real life, is in fact the same as it has been and if so, we will then no doubt have a further conversation from there as to where we may want to take it, or not.

So, long distant relationships do they work?

As stated in my initial reply................. Ask me after the 30th...... to the threader.

Trusting i don't have to reply any further, justify, prove, frankly this is a Forum not a private message bank.
Riconus, your obvoiusly looking for an argument, with a WOMAN on this , which im sure everybody is aware by now i am ,

You have been mailing me and i have just told approx an hour ago after finding another personal mail , full of anger an hate over my origional SAFETY comment, which was posted in genuine concern . I have stated to you i dont wish to carry on with this childish petty behaviour , it is disturbing and personlly i dont think your feeling in any fit state to be making yourself ill over such trivial matter . I did advise you out of kindness it would be better if you took a deep breath to calm down and relax riconus .

I do not gain pleasure in upsetting people or offending people and it was NOT my intention to do so on this forum . I politely asked you to stop quoting my comments and i said i would say no more on this subject or the subject of any men you talk about or your internet dating ...

I am asking you to STOP sending personal mail, to stop quoting me onthis forum , i want nothing more to do with this subject as i feel this matter has gone too far . I dont think you are feeling too well from the content of your mail and i urge you to please calm down and seek help if anything is upsetting you . Now i ask you ONCE AGAIN , please do not email me riconus and please do not quote me on this matter . I wish you luck with your ventures , now lets stop this anger please .
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Old 05-20-2008, 07:02 PM   #14
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Sweet, it seems that all i am doing is "on-going" replying to your comments, seeing as that is evident... replying, again, and again and again.

I don't hold anger, and i have no hate. What you started personally, you bought over to a Forum? Do you really need to air your laundry in public?

I feel that i have been again very specific, this is "your opinion" safety? For a 44 year old woman? Don't let him in your house, don't pay for everything, don't.... dear i gave up reading after about 5 lines.

As for fit state, i think you are making it clear whom does and whom doesn't with your posts.

You didn't advise out of kindness as i replied, your hell bent for what ever reason of me and this situation with my guy, not your call, i'll say it for the final time, it is my decision i am a grown woman butt out.


And i have made it clear from receiving 6 emails a day from you, running a business, i don't have that time to reply over and over.

And i wont.

So, thread away, post away and stop taking things so personal..

If i chose not to agree, that's my priogrative. I do not agree. Simple. My opinion.

This is my life and whilst you made a comment, you have repeated it 10 times and frankly, i'm very tired of reading your point over and over.

Please allow people to live their own lives, they belong to themselves not someone else whom has an opinion and won't let up on it.

Enjoy yours
Yes riconus, i agree with you , everythings just fine , your exactly right , you were all along ..and i agree with you here too . ok anything you say .
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Old 10-18-2008, 12:02 PM   #15
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I think to get into the long term relationship you need to choose serious partner who is interested in same way ..in long term relationship
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Old 11-16-2008, 04:08 PM   #16
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PHEW - memories reading all of that haha.

I agree, it is a big Universe, if we close our mind to that, and only look local, we may "settle" for something but not fall deeply in love, after all that is the key to a successful relationship regardless of distance. Deep love..

Nothing can hold that back, in my opinion...

It's the same as going out with a guy and it doesn't work out. Distance isn't the factor at all rather the choice.

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Old 11-16-2008, 04:42 PM   #17
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I had a successful LDR for 18 months after only being with my boyfriend in person for 2 months. We've now been in each other's presence for 14 months, bringing the total relationship time to just over 3 years and we're going strong. It can work, if things are right. I actually hadn't even anticipated the relationship continuing when I left his country but he wanted to make it work so we did.
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Old 11-18-2008, 07:37 AM   #18
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yes i also believe in long term relationship...i dont like changing partners frequently.....
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Old 11-26-2008, 03:07 PM   #19
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I had a successful LDR for 18 months
Still together hey Silvertae...

Well, I always believe it's a big Universe.. If you set your mind only to where you live, you have less choice of finding the equal of your dreams, in reality it's just logical.

Not to say that it's an easy road, but if you enbark on it, I say do it 100% because it is worth it if he is the one you want to be with, visa versa.

Anything is possible.

Adam LDR... You were tired,

It would be wicked to not chose the wrong partner over and over, therefore having too many short term relationships... I agree.

But LDR, (Long Distance Relationships) ever tried it? Like America - Australia, Ireland - Spain?

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Do you think long distance relationships are romantic?
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