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Actually, this being about long distant relationships, be honest with your partner, and discuss whether you want children or not.

I am NOT 45, and i can have children if i so desire, but that's a usual assumption, if i was exactly 45, irrespective there is no age barrier, if you are healthy, but certainly a good point.

Discuss this with your partner, as to whether or not you BOTH desire children in this relationship.

Long distance, or normal distance is not relevant, if your looking towards any form of future and have reached that stage of your life with a loving partner, make sure your both "clear" on the subject.

Important, if one does, one doesn't and you spend say 3 yrs, in a "wrong" relationship, long distance or not.......

Your welcome to your "opinion"...

Pretty, pretty sure i offered my opinion of "check guys" on whom your dating in a long distance relationship.

I trust no police read this ?

Thank you for your opinion....................

I trust no police read this ???what are you frightened of Rick !! your obvviously VERY intimidated by the police ??? thats not good at all is it ...its a shame Padre's who are officers in the navy BUSY 24 hours a day and on call 24 hours a day like my brother ...i didnt see you posting over religious bigotry on WH ??? and i HAVE dated a policeman i told you that before ..Ireland ! remember Rick dear ! so dont be a silly girl .

Long distance or "normal" distance as you call it and what ric, exactly is "normal" distance in your opinion ??? you talk in riddles as your first comment, this being about long distance realtionships and then discussing kids? im going by what you told me ric, dont play around on here and say something to confuse ...Its obvious the distance is relevent !! particulary with England and USA , i personally think and only my opinion thinking of a loving partner and kids with a guy who youve never met is BIZARRE ...english guys who pick a Asian bride via the net ?? loving partners have kids ect ..yes but thats because they want a new life in good old Britain ,,,no 19 year old young girl marries these guys for love !! please start getting into reality , your head is in the clouds rick , whats going on ??

Also Rick if he is a policeman, hed be backing me up ! why?? because hed be spending or should be spending his working hours DEALING with women who have been attacked or assaulted and warning or should be of the dangers of trusting strange men inviting them in the home > After all thats his JOB !! so hed fully understand what i was saying , but lets hope he turns out to be one of the good ones !! because not all of them are !!.

Darling, thanks again.

And love, he's past being a cop, he's an advisor.

One date with a cop and your hell bent on this? Hate to see what would have happened if they were all cops?

Frankly, i might also just want a good "..............." and will be getting that 10 fold Sure i have written that around 10 times so far, but then that to is my priogrative i'm a mature woman who knows exactly what i want, and well, go gets it.

So, if it turns out, it turns out... More power to me for conversing with a man for 6 months, meeting him, then seeing who moves where, when... See this is not an "affair", just a bloody good affair love.

Have no idea why your posting to me on this to start with?
I purely answered a thread.
Never mind.....

We shall leave our opinions where they sit i feel, in your mind, instead of written, do you think?

Ric , youve got yourself into a bit of a state , i think youve made it clear by saying "Frankly, i might just want a good ......!! it was pretty obvious !!! ...oh dear dont you feel a little ashamed of admitting your desparate !! ...come on ric , have a little bit of pride in yourself ! bunny boilers tend to scare men away ...

Il just correct you on something ric, we dont have any such thing called an "advisor" here , there is no such word !! sorry, nice try !! oh and yes thank you for your mesge telling me you ARE 45 ..then in the next mail , your 44 then the next one your 45. I still am unaware of your gender , but thats your business ...oh MY GOSH

Oh dear, it doesn't end does it?

INTERNET DATING:- (Long distance)

In order to keep to the thread.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with Internet dating. It becomes evident that it may be long distance from the initial facts put in front of you. In my instance, he will be moving shortly, perhaps not my State, then it will be a choice of if i move or not.

Internet dating, can allow you to share experiences, photos, phone calls, texts, MSN, all same methods of normal of course face to face is not possible.

The beauty of it, is that you have much more time to get to know each other than you would do, had you met at a bar, gone out on one date, then a second and formed a bond of sorts, commencing a relationship and finding out that he / she was a total loser, jerk.

With time up your sleeves, you can in fact get "to know someone" intimately, not necessarily sexually, intimate has a meaning of its own.

I have already covered the fact that "do your checking", it is a dangerous assumption to assume that the person you are talking to is real. Some guys, and i have kept a few "MSN" only friends from my experience, tell of women who post old, 10 year old photos, when they meet, ahh.. So it is pertinent to do all the checking you can.

Fortunately, past employment affords me very good access, Private Investigations, and contacts... Not all have that luxury so ensure you check for sure.

In a poll of men and women of "friends" over the past 6 months including family, all have agreed " at least you have had 6 months to get to know him, know how you feel and whether you want to pursue "long distance or not"... This is true.. 6 months is a long time.

Downside, of course is lack of sexuality in real life. You have a person you intend to meet " to see where it goes" as frankly even he has said, " you have to meet" to know this. And, paying for a plain fair from "one side of the world" to the other, thousands not hundreds, shows a lot i feel... So, being faithful is something else that is highly important in long distant relationships.

In fact, the day we meet is 12 months to the day, i left my ex-husband whom was abusive emotionally and verbally, which no woman should remain in, but 12 months is without a doubt, a long time and i wouldn't have it any other way.

Interesting that i have never posted here on this Forum my age, not that i care, I'm a proud, as i certainly don't look my age. Must be that i run businesses, and know how to present myself.. Still have the long hair... But i am 44... Until the day i turn 45, then I'm 44.. Good number double whammy.

Regarding the word "advisor" merely stating that we are mature a cop is a young rookie, he is way above that teaching and well, i do know that for a fact but never the less, we'll let that go shall we.

Totally amusing, ...... After 6 months waiting and communicating and lusting, desiring, absolutely... I would say it again.... but then any man or woman would knowing that they will soon be together.... Pretty normal, could be a romantic story to write... lol.. ashamed? 12 months of virginity with a hoard of guys trying to change my mind to go out with them without success, na, no where near ashamed, extremely proud in fact... Interesting watching some little devils trying to be devils advocate. Very.

Lets hope the women whom allow men to chat them up, only for them to find out later, that they are in-deed married, once fallen for them, work out how to "find out" more first about the man and not be so naive.

There are good and bad in every job specification and every person, necessity to have the knowledge to weed out the good from the bad.

But then once mastered, it can be amusing letting them know you know.... bugger, they have to find another sucker.


I was specific in as much as i "stated" i CAN have kids. Certainly at my age it's the further est from my mind.. I wouldn't actually even discuss, nor have i discussed this with this man, nor have i stated that i have. We are both aware that i have no children, that is all that needs to be said at this point in time.

What will be, will be... The whole purpose of meeting is to establish, there is more, much more than talking babies, marriage, living arrangements.

In fact the only thing we wish to establish, is if the laughter, good communication, common ground, interests, perspectives, way of thinking, cheekiness, in real life, is in fact the same as it has been and if so, we will then no doubt have a further conversation from there as to where we may want to take it, or not.

So, long distant relationships do they work?

As stated in my initial reply................. Ask me after the 30th...... to the threader.

Trusting i don't have to reply any further, justify, prove, frankly this is a Forum not a private message bank.