Thread: Prove me wrong

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

I think if there is a form of "love" then it's important at some point to "not" put 100% effort in and not receive at least mostly a large percentage back. It can't be a one way street, till the end, how painful..

IDK, I was able to look myself in the mirror and say with honesty that I did everything and beyond, to make my marriage work, bar the bedroom, as it was pretty difficult to go there, when your told whilst reading gossip magazines that all women are.... or when you are told " when your nice I'll kiss you" So you kind of leave that side alone, which in itself is wrong...

You can't change someone, you really can't... You only hope their eyes will open and see your not like their ex, or you won't hurt them, but at the end of the day, the cutting comments, words, control, just sends you packing...

There just has to be compromise and not just "companionship"...

This new "darling", and I communicate, laugh, share thoughts, current, future, are open, and explore and it's magical, and he can cook, wash up after, and be a gentleman I'm kind of worried I put too much of a request out there to the Universe.

WC is clairvoyant, so am I pretzel, you can call us CW ( Cauldron Witch) & (Witch Cauldron), lol's.

Originally Posted by WildChild

Ah, so at least you got some semi-sleep?
Sometimes it seems you and I are two side of the same coin. I've done this more than once- staying, hoping somehow if I give a little more, am little more cheerful, a little more supportive, a little more, a little more. But it's never enough and some point I realize I'm losing myself and being so depleted and drained that I can't continue. Then I have to get out of the situation.

It's hard when you love someone, you want to see them happy. Some people just don't have it in them. Instead of you helping them be happy, they make you miserable. Then the world has two unhappy people instead of one. We can't make them happy, we can't make them act in their own best interest, we can't get them to love the way we do (you do realize I'm telling myself this as much as saying it to you?) We keep saying, I can't give up on her/him, but in many ways they gave up a long time ago and they are the one who have to change that. We can't change them. I keep hoping too, looking for little signs of a change of heart. But it's starting to seem like looking for the air to go back into the flat tire on it's own.
But you never know, you do hear stories of people who've turned it around...

Think I'll go hit my head against the wall. Knock some sense into myself.

Well for what it's worth, there is nothing I can argue either of you on.

Realization is a real hard pill to swallow.

I'm just not there yet. Really don't know when I'll reach that point. There have been days when I wanted to run as far as I could. There have been days when I wondered what happened. These days haven't overtaken the love and want just yet.

Thanks, both of you. You two a great people to know and call friends.

Thanks Pretzel, likewise

I think the realization hits you at some point of no return and un-fortunately you have to wait for that to gain the closure in the knowing that you gave your all.

I know my new relationship is new, but also know that 2yrs and 8 months, have passed as well, with many a date in between that never turned to second, just saying, that there is a true beauty to be found, once you are grounded and know what you want out of life and not settle for less.

Originally Posted by WildChild

Ah, so at least you got some semi-sleep?
Sometimes it seems you and I are two side of the same coin. I've done this more than once- staying, hoping somehow if I give a little more, am little more cheerful, a little more supportive, a little more, a little more. But it's never enough and some point I realize I'm losing myself and being so depleted and drained that I can't continue. Then I have to get out of the situation.

We're often on the same page WC, but for me it was called marriage and as I believe in marriage, that you have to give 100% and if it's not returned and you know you've done everything, then and only then can you walk, with your head held high and continue your journey

It's hard when you love someone, you want to see them happy. Some people just don't have it in them. Instead of you helping them be happy, they make you miserable. Then the world has two unhappy people instead of one. We can't make them happy, we can't make them act in their own best interest, we can't get them to love the way we do (you do realize I'm telling myself this as much as saying it to you?) We keep saying, I can't give up on her/him, but in many ways they gave up a long time ago and they are the one who have to change that. We can't change them. I keep hoping too, looking for little signs of a change of heart. But it's starting to seem like looking for the air to go back into the flat tire on it's own.
But you never know, you do hear stories of people who've turned it around...


Yes, if there is foundation to work with, I agree, you can turn things around, but if the baggage is so heavily loaded, how can you? You can't.
Think I'll go hit my head against the wall. Knock some sense into myself.

hahaha... WC, just remember, always be you, never change and in that, someone will knock on that door and love you for exactly all you stand for and who you are and show you love, instead of you always loving someone who doesn't really comprehend the word