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HisWoman · 11-07-2008, 12:20 PM

I have a serious problem with my man and his female friends. I do not think that he is sleeping with them, he does not give them more time than he gives me. He is okay with me meeting them but does not see it a priority and will not go out of his way to see that I meet them.

I am very jealous that he is friends with these women. Even if I just have to deal with it I get very upset that he thinks nothing of getting female co-workers phone numbers. I don't see why he needs to get in contact with them outside of work. He claims it is networking. He is a very outgoing friendly person. I don't want to strip him of who he is but at the same time I feel his boundries should be wider than they are. He tells me his boundries are " He don't sleep with them, don't stick his tounge down their throat, and he does not share intimate or emotional feelings with them.

I get so upset at the thought of these girls getting my mans attention, I don't always know why. It just made me upset to see that a married woman (invited us to her wedding) sent him a message and said it was good to see you, you looked good as always. The part where she says you looked good as always is what upset me. Am I at liberty for that to upset me? I don't like another woman commenting on my mans good looks. I feel like that was disrespectful to me as his woman...am I wrong to feel this way?

I don't know how to handle my jealousy. I have flipped out on him time and time again, trying to make him stop, and our relationship is in jepordy because of the constant extreme arguments. I don't want to loose him, he is great so how should I deal with this?

**galyaone** · 11-08-2008, 08:11 AM

I would suggest you to ask him in straight manner that you are not happy with him if he is behaving like anything...and then get his reactions..if he still continue to behave in same manner then think about your life ...you are right whatever decisions you take..

Dookie20 · 11-08-2008, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by HisWoman

I have a serious problem with my man and his female friends. I do not think that he is sleeping with them, he does not give them more time than he gives me. He is okay with me meeting them but does not see it a priority and will not go out of his way to see that I meet them.

I am very jealous that he is friends with these women. Even if I just have to deal with it I get very upset that he thinks nothing of getting female co-workers phone numbers. I don't see why he needs to get in contact with them outside of work. He claims it is networking. He is a very outgoing friendly person. I don't want to strip him of who he is but at the same time I feel his boundries should be wider than they are. He tells me his boundries are " He don't sleep with them, don't stick his tounge down their throat, and he does not share intimate or emotional feelings with them.

I get so upset at the thought of these girls getting my mans attention, I don't always know why. It just made me upset to see that a married woman (invited us to her wedding) sent him a message and said it was good to see you, you looked good as always. The part where she says you looked good as always is what upset me. Am I at liberty for that to upset me? I don't like another woman commenting on my mans good looks. I feel like that was disrespectful to me as his woman...am I wrong to feel this way?

I don't know how to handle my jealousy. I have flipped out on him time and time again, trying to make him stop, and our relationship is in jepordy because of the constant extreme arguments. I don't want to loose him, he is great so how should I deal with this?

Are the woman attractive. I remember when I was single, I was friends with alot of girls. But then again I was hoping to bang them all. Thats why I tried to become friends with them in the first place. They were attractive and I wanted to give myself a shot should something happen. Really why else would I need female friends. That's why guys really can't be friends with girls, because the guys would be willing to throw the friendship away to have sex. If I wanted to go out, whether it was drinking, to a game, the track, atlantic city or whatever. I would rather be with my guy friends and have fun. I would keep your eye on the situation.

lakerat · 11-09-2008, 08:45 PM

Cant speak for anyone else but ive always had female friends...that I never slept with, were friends with them thats all.

I have a good friend that says he cant be just friends with a woman ...for him it seems true.. I think it just depends on the person as long as he is open and honest, you kinda have to trust him...without that you wont have a relationship for long.....hope it all works out for you..luck

silvertae · 11-16-2008, 12:05 PM

I agree with Lakerat. It depends on the guy. I have several guy friends where there is no chance of physical things happening.

**adam001** · 11-18-2008, 07:19 AM

First confirm that they are only friends or not...
There is not point in getting jealous and suspecting your man without knowing truth..

CHANDLERS WISH · 11-26-2008, 03:10 PM

Communication is the key to any relationship, there underlies the next word, Trust.

So, unless he makes you feel safe, you don't trust, unless you talk, your not communicating. Our minds can play devilsh tricks and we see things that we otherwise would not see.

Jealousy, is a waste of negative energy that otherwise could be used in a positive way...

CW

**jsmithxx** · 11-27-2008, 06:18 AM

Humm, good thoughts..

CHANDLERS WISH · 11-30-2008, 03:20 AM

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Originally Posted by lakerat

Cant speak for anyone else but ive always had female friends...that I never slept with, were friends with them thats all.

I have a good friend that says he cant be just friends with a woman ...for him it seems true.. I think it just depends on the person as long as he is open and honest, you kinda have to trust him...without that you wont have a relationship for long.....hope it all works out for you..luck

Damd, we are friends........................mmmm.... And, I am eventually coming to America

haha.

You know if you have jealousy, seriously, then you eat yourself away over comments made to "friends" meant with good intention, to help them to make them realise you are one, anything really.

If you feel you can't trust that person, that's different, because it's not a real relationship, let's face it... Doubt if real, is real and therefore, you will find out something that you don't want to.

But, if you trust, and there is a reason to.... Jealousy is not a word i acknowledge, it's stupid ..

Work out if you picked the right person.

Cheating is not a good thing.

CW

**mjcobxx** · 12-01-2008, 05:56 AM

You have said that your man is outgoing friendly person.. Its may possibility that they are just friends and would like to share their thoughts each other..

There is no Jealousy problem.. Still if you think some thing is wrong then communicate with your man and clear your droughts with him..

11-07-2008, 12:20 PM	#1
HisWoman Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 3	His Female Friends I have a serious problem with my man and his female friends. I do not think that he is sleeping with them, he does not give them more time than he gives me. He is okay with me meeting them but does not see it a priority and will not go out of his way to see that I meet them. I am very jealous that he is friends with these women. Even if I just have to deal with it I get very upset that he thinks nothing of getting female co-workers phone numbers. I don't see why he needs to get in contact with them outside of work. He claims it is networking. He is a very outgoing friendly person. I don't want to strip him of who he is but at the same time I feel his boundries should be wider than they are. He tells me his boundries are " He don't sleep with them, don't stick his tounge down their throat, and he does not share intimate or emotional feelings with them. I get so upset at the thought of these girls getting my mans attention, I don't always know why. It just made me upset to see that a married woman (invited us to her wedding) sent him a message and said it was good to see you, you looked good as always. The part where she says you looked good as always is what upset me. Am I at liberty for that to upset me? I don't like another woman commenting on my mans good looks. I feel like that was disrespectful to me as his woman...am I wrong to feel this way? I don't know how to handle my jealousy. I have flipped out on him time and time again, trying to make him stop, and our relationship is in jepordy because of the constant extreme arguments. I don't want to loose him, he is great so how should I deal with this?

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11-08-2008, 08:11 AM	#2
galyaone Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 596 Blog Entries: 12	I would suggest you to ask him in straight manner that you are not happy with him if he is behaving like anything...and then get his reactions..if he still continue to behave in same manner then think about your life ...you are right whatever decisions you take..

11-09-2008, 08:45 PM	#4
lakerat Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 13	Cant speak for anyone else but ive always had female friends...that I never slept with, were friends with them thats all. I have a good friend that says he cant be just friends with a woman ...for him it seems true.. I think it just depends on the person as long as he is open and honest, you kinda have to trust him...without that you wont have a relationship for long.....hope it all works out for you..luck

11-16-2008, 12:05 PM	#5
silvertae Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Cork, Ireland Posts: 3	I agree with Lakerat. It depends on the guy. I have several guy friends where there is no chance of physical things happening.

11-18-2008, 07:19 AM	#6
adam001 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 351 Blog Entries: 6	First confirm that they are only friends or not... There is not point in getting jealous and suspecting your man without knowing truth..

11-26-2008, 03:10 PM	#7
CHANDLERS WISH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 336	Communication is the key to any relationship, there underlies the next word, Trust. So, unless he makes you feel safe, you don't trust, unless you talk, your not communicating. Our minds can play devilsh tricks and we see things that we otherwise would not see. Jealousy, is a waste of negative energy that otherwise could be used in a positive way... CW

11-27-2008, 06:18 AM	#8
jsmithxx Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 593 Blog Entries: 12	Humm, good thoughts..

12-01-2008, 05:56 AM	#10
mjcobxx Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 573 Blog Entries: 5	You have said that your man is outgoing friendly person.. Its may possibility that they are just friends and would like to share their thoughts each other.. There is no Jealousy problem.. Still if you think some thing is wrong then communicate with your man and clear your droughts with him..