showering immediately after sex - Men's Health Information, Including Fitness, Nutrition, Weight Loss, Working Out & Sex

webycricky · 10-01-2008, 10:04 AM

This was a topic that came up in my other thread, so I thought I'd post about it.

Anyway, my boyfriend jumps up and showers after sex. He says it makes him feel gross and sticky. It does kind of kill the intimacy, I will admit, but I never really thought that much of it. I read an interesting article suggesting various reasons for showering after sex. Most of the reasons were cleanliness reasons, and such. My bf is a total neat freak so it's not that big of a surprise that he would want to clean off.

Posters talked about the issue a little bit in my other thread, so I'm opening this one up to opinions on the subject. Anyone ever had an ex who did this, or been in this situation? Share experiences.

Olivia-Grace · 10-24-2008, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by webycricky

This was a topic that came up in my other thread, so I thought I'd post about it.

Anyway, my boyfriend jumps up and showers after sex. He says it makes him feel gross and sticky. It does kind of kill the intimacy, I will admit, but I never really thought that much of it. I read an interesting article suggesting various reasons for showering after sex.

Interesting question ..i have quite a few theories on this . Is your boyfriend using a condom ? because if not ...theres obviously thoughts there that is has some form of "anxiety" that he may "catch" something ..some men are wrongly under the impression that showering immediately after sex will STOP them getting an sti ...it may prevent ,to a certain extent a possible "infection" but im afraid that having unprotected intercourse exchanging bodly fluids for however long ...that may be a short time ...if the partner is infected its very likely that they will contract something ...
The reason i say this is ...are you sure your boyfiend is 100 per cent faithful ...this tends to be a "habit" or certainly they have got used to doing this ..its WHY they have ??? i would certainly be haveing thoughts or perhaps having a tactful discussion on this matter .
Another reason ..is your boyfriend circumcised ? generally i would expect that sort of thing to take place afterwards ..it may be irritation of the condom or obvious hygiene thoughts ...
There may be other reason ..have you noticed or does he suffer or display anything to suggest OCD obsessive Complsive Disorder ...handwashing..checking doors ..showering just too many times during the day when sex has not taken place ?

It general good manners and etiquette to be "clean" just before sex ...but jumping up straight afterwards unless of course somebody is going to work and its the early morning shower ...is course for concern !

If sex has taken place a number of times when going to bed ..agin maybe in the night and early morning ..does your boyfirend shower each time ?? that would be worrying ...hed be showering or washing all nite long !
I would ..if you dont try having sex ONCE with a condom ..or suggeting using a condom if you dont ..and see how your boyfirend feels about that ..maybe he wants to use a condom if you dont use one ..but is unhappy or uncomfortable to say that !
I would definately have a talk with him ..perhaps he may need a referral to a phsyco sexual counciller ..and ?or a councillor dealing with obsessive compulsive disorders and anxiety problems .
However ..the best person to talk with ..would be you ..id try that first ..

**samee** · 10-25-2008, 08:35 AM

After sex it is a good idea to take a bath or a shower. Your boyfriend has the right idea. If you go to sleep immediately after having sex your body tends to smell a bit when you wake up in the morning. I am sure he does not want to offend you with his body odor and that's why he opts to shower afterwards. If I were you I definitely would join in with him and shower so you are fresh in the morning when you wake up. Well, I enjoy a shower before sex. It's not mandatory, though.

Olivia-Grace · 10-25-2008, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by samee

If you go to sleep immediately after having sex your body tends to smell a bit when you wake up in the morning. I am sure he does not want to offend you with his body odor Well, I enjoy a shower before sex. It's not mandatory, though.

Samme ..i disagree with your comment ..if a married woman read your comment "after having sex your body tends to smell a bit ..im sure he does not want to ffend you with his body odour " im flabbergasted when you make love samme ..parrt of the pleasure ..the closeness and the INTAMACY of that experience is to touch ..taste and SMELL your partner ..thats why its why its imprtant for me that i request that men DONT use heavy strong perfumed aftershaves ..covering up his natural MALE smells ..thats what attracts a woman ..even when shes not aware of it that is having an effect on her ...im not suggesting dont wash ..im saying be clean with soap and water but it is taking it too far what the poster said ...the smell that you are saying is coming from the woman transferred to HIM ..why woould a woman be offended at that ? ...i have been in love just once in my life ..one of the things im remembering now was kissing him and the smell of his hair ..its actually quite sad to think about that ....most people when they make love do not jump up right away and shower ..of course as i said they do early in the morning as you would do every morning you normally have a shower or bath whether you make love or not ...im surprised ..but i still think he has some problems .........

CHANDLERS WISH · 10-27-2008, 06:38 PM

I don't think there is anything wrong if he wants a shower after sex "as he feels sticky" or simply because he is a total " neat freak"...

I also think that the smell of "sex" is a beautiful thing between two devoted couples and usually the evening sex is very intimate and the morning sex is very, immediate sperred on by the thoughts of the previous evening with your S/O..

I don't think that there is a right or a wrong, it's a matter of choice..

In your case, you know he is a "neat freak" and so that is him.. Perhaps though ensure that he holds you and talks to you for a good 10 minutes after, before the shower, there is nothing worse than a man jumping out of bed straight after making love, or turning to the TV is seconds.

I also disagree with Olivia.

If you are in a committed relationship, and have been for some time, there is no necessity for a condom. And, i doubt that he is anxious, i think that both of those items / thoughts are resevered more for casual flings/relationships...

CW

**samee** · 10-28-2008, 04:10 AM

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Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

I don't think that there is a right or a wrong, it's a matter of choice..

Yes, right! It is totally depends on the choice of guy ..

lakerat · 10-29-2008, 07:24 PM

I cant speak for anyone else here ...but for me if its someone ive been dateing for a while then Ilike to wake up to there smell ...all woman smell a little diffrent it can be very sothing and comforting to wake up and smell their special smell.

down boy..... down

CHANDLERS WISH · 10-30-2008, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by lakerat

I cant speak for anyone else here ...but for me if its someone ive been dateing for a while then Ilike to wake up to there smell ...all woman smell a little diffrent it can be very sothing and comforting to wake up and smell their special smell.

down boy..... down

HAHA..

I second that, except the other way around.

CW

crzyredhead21 · 11-28-2008, 08:38 PM

Yeah, I had an ex that liked to shower afterwards as well. It didnt bother me because I'm kind of a roll over and fall asleep kind of lady after sex anyways..lol.

I do like the "man scent" but i also like the freshly showered smell too... hmmmmmmm... cant decide!

**mjcobxx** · 11-29-2008, 05:58 AM

Its great Idea... Thanks for suggestions..

10-01-2008, 10:04 AM	#1
webycricky Banned Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 964 Blog Entries: 20	showering immediately after sex This was a topic that came up in my other thread, so I thought I'd post about it. Anyway, my boyfriend jumps up and showers after sex. He says it makes him feel gross and sticky. It does kind of kill the intimacy, I will admit, but I never really thought that much of it. I read an interesting article suggesting various reasons for showering after sex. Most of the reasons were cleanliness reasons, and such. My bf is a total neat freak so it's not that big of a surprise that he would want to clean off. Posters talked about the issue a little bit in my other thread, so I'm opening this one up to opinions on the subject. Anyone ever had an ex who did this, or been in this situation? Share experiences.

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10-25-2008, 08:35 AM	#3
samee Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 2,042 Blog Entries: 36	After sex it is a good idea to take a bath or a shower. Your boyfriend has the right idea. If you go to sleep immediately after having sex your body tends to smell a bit when you wake up in the morning. I am sure he does not want to offend you with his body odor and that's why he opts to shower afterwards. If I were you I definitely would join in with him and shower so you are fresh in the morning when you wake up. Well, I enjoy a shower before sex. It's not mandatory, though.

10-27-2008, 06:38 PM	#5
CHANDLERS WISH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 336	I don't think there is anything wrong if he wants a shower after sex "as he feels sticky" or simply because he is a total " neat freak"... I also think that the smell of "sex" is a beautiful thing between two devoted couples and usually the evening sex is very intimate and the morning sex is very, immediate sperred on by the thoughts of the previous evening with your S/O.. I don't think that there is a right or a wrong, it's a matter of choice.. In your case, you know he is a "neat freak" and so that is him.. Perhaps though ensure that he holds you and talks to you for a good 10 minutes after, before the shower, there is nothing worse than a man jumping out of bed straight after making love, or turning to the TV is seconds. I also disagree with Olivia. If you are in a committed relationship, and have been for some time, there is no necessity for a condom. And, i doubt that he is anxious, i think that both of those items / thoughts are resevered more for casual flings/relationships... CW

10-29-2008, 07:24 PM	#7
lakerat Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 13	I cant speak for anyone else here ...but for me if its someone ive been dateing for a while then Ilike to wake up to there smell ...all woman smell a little diffrent it can be very sothing and comforting to wake up and smell their special smell. down boy..... down

11-28-2008, 08:38 PM	#9
crzyredhead21 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: California Posts: 11	Yeah, I had an ex that liked to shower afterwards as well. It didnt bother me because I'm kind of a roll over and fall asleep kind of lady after sex anyways..lol. I do like the "man scent" but i also like the freshly showered smell too... hmmmmmmm... cant decide!

11-29-2008, 05:58 AM	#10
mjcobxx Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 573 Blog Entries: 5	Its great Idea... Thanks for suggestions..