That Feeling

**webycricky** · 10-01-2008 10:01 AM

I'm new to the forum,but I have been a lurker for a while, and I think its amazing that there is a sight like this to help people with that crazy little thing called love. I have something of a predicament on my hands that I would like to share with you all and hopefully some of you can help. I work as an admissions adviser at a business college. I see and talk to students all day long. Some of the women that attend are very attractive but I pay them no mind.

Today this girl walks into my office and I interviewed her. Now, I have only experienced this feeling only a few other times in my life, and I was right about it. But when I first layed eyes on her, I thought she was the most amazing person I have ever seen and spoken to. I got that feeling....you know the one in the pit of your stomach. We had a great conversation and I could feel that she sort of felt the same way. I also found out from her that she lives bascially right around the corner from me. For some reason I cant stop thinking about her.

There is no written rule about dating students,(even though I would like to keep it quite) and in the past I have never considered it. But I have to got to get to know this person. During our conversation she also revealed where she works at. Im 28 and she is 21. I have been told that I am a good looking guy, and part of my job is speaking in front of people and I am a talker. But when it comes to things like this, I am something of a wuss.

How should I approach this?? I really want to go up to her work and ask her on a date, and sort of explain myself in a not-so-over-bearing way. If she says no and I am wrong, then I would let her know that things will not be weird.

I just have this feeling, and maybe she feels it to. I know that life is short, and sometimes you have to break down walls and go after what you want. I cant let her pass by without at least knowing. I have to know, because this feeling is very strong for someone I have only met once. It is a little scary.

So does anyone have any suggestions on how approach this. What do I say and how do I not freak her out? I want to be sincere and get my point across to her without sounding weird or having it come out like Marty Mcfly. I want her to know that she is truly amazing without being like I said, over-bearing, I really need some help on this one guys if you could please........ Thank you so much.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-27-2008 05:14 PM

How about you send her a single rose... with a card that says, "you should never tell someone where you work, if you don't want to receive a flower, that reminds me of you, enjoyed our conversation"... don't sign your name on it at all...

And, sit back for a week, she should know who it is from..See what she does, at worse if she liked you too, she will be waiting for your move, but if you don't make one, she will keep thinking of you, wondering...

See what she does if nothing, let us know..

Sometimes, I find written words are "the best"...

CW

**samee** · 10-28-2008 04:29 AM

Yes, the written words and a beautiful red rose can do magic for you..if you know she is a single then go ahead and approach her either with red rose or written letter.

Pull yourself together. You are the man, she is the woman, remember? Think chauvinist, in the sense that you move, not her. Recover your manliness and get ready to use it to draw her attention and make her feel attracted. Are you feeling it already? Good. Just be careful not to exaggerate because arrogance is one of the major turn-offs a single woman can find. A little (just a little) of self-deprecation, as it is funnier, also works fine.

Be polite. If you behave manfully before the world but politely with a single woman, she will find you more attractive than men who do not. This attitude can help you a lot when approaching. A little chivalrousness can also be a plus... but it depends on what she is like.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-28-2008 06:52 PM

samee

Pull yourself together. You are the man, she is the woman, remember? Think chauvinist, in the sense that you move, not her. Recover your manliness and get ready to use it to draw her attention and make her feel attracted

I think it's an equal world today. There is nothing at all wrong with a woman approaching a man... I don't believe men have to be "chauvinistic" at all personally.

A red rose is a gesture of "romance and making her feel attractive" but also without the name, shows confidence.

So in my opinion, confidence is more the key than being a chauvinist.

Just my opinion.

CW

**lakerat** · 10-29-2008 07:24 AM

The rose is a great idea.And confidence is always a plus (not cocky)
throw in a lil playful teasing if you get the chance and you should be fine.

Dont try to be something your not.

**samee** · 10-29-2008 08:54 AM

Originally Posted by lakerat

Dont try to be something your not.

Yup, agreed with this.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-29-2008 06:09 PM

Originally Posted by lakerat

The rose is a great idea.And confidence is always a plus (not cocky)
throw in a lil playful teasing if you get the chance and you should be fine.

Dont try to be something your not.

Actually that's an interesting analogy "don't be cocky"...

I know i stated that "confidence" is the key, and I recall someone saying to me recently "I am confident, not cocky"... I am not sure actually

I think he is both... but mildly ever so mildly on the later.

I think sometimes confusing a woman's mind "slightly" only slightly with a small amount of cockiness can be a good thing..

Just a thought but playful teasing i totally agree with...

It's flirtatious and makes you feel good as a female.

CW

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