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webycricky · 10-01-2008, 09:57 AM

so me and this girl have been friends for while now (keep in mind shes my best friends sister). i always wanted more than friendship with her because shes such a great girl. we have common interests and all, but ive never been good with girls in the case of dating because im more of a shy person. this past summer though, we really hung out alot and eventually we hooked up(not meaning sex). we started to a more intimate and kinda started dating. everything was going great. we went out on dates and seemed like we were basically boyfriend/girlfriend. then it suddenly stopped. we both had other things coming up for school and such. we still talked somewhat but it seemed like it was back to being friends. i knew when we were together she enjoyed being with me. we were both home for a weekend and got together. we hung out, but it was at public events with other people. after that night we hugged and that was it. i was just wondering what other people thought of this situation. i know i Should talk to her about this but i just cant get the courage to do this, or if it would complicate our friendship. i do want more than friendship, but i dont want to lose that. i want to talk to her, even just over IM, but i have no clue what to say at this point. i dont want to sound like just a friend but not too overanxious to talk to her. any thoughts?

Endurnz · 05-03-2009, 02:58 AM

Thy are on a cycle. It would make the world better if they all had little a little button they had to pin on them that said what day they are on their cycle. The rest of the animal kingdom uses scent for this. Humans lost it a long time ago. It would be great to bring it back. Just a little round button that said day 24. That would be helpful.

**WildChild** · 02-08-2010, 09:18 AM

There is a little thing called communication. Works pretty well. Give it a try. It does require words and touches and all those things. But with a little practice, it gets easier..

Tabz · 02-25-2010, 08:08 PM

Hmmm, it appears she means a lot to you. Before anything, have you two ever had 'the talk' where you actually tell eachother you like eachother ? If the answer is yes, then this is sorta a good thing i suppose. It would mean that YES she does want to be more then friends, and she likes when you two are togather, and the connection that you two share, however when it stopped, it could be cause she was scared, and thought to herself ' i dont want to ruin the friendship'

However, if you two have not had the talk, and you have no discussed your feelings for another, then i would advice you to either TALK TO HER about your EMOTIONS. Or atleast try flirting ? to make it obvious you like her, if she responds GREAT if not... well. Maybe she just does not see you that way. This really depends on the age you are aswell ?If you are on your teens, maybe when the whole cuddling and kissing thing happened, to her it did not mean much, and the reason why she backed up and started being more towards the friend line is because she realised that it was better when you two were friends.

Well get back to me with the replies to my question.
Good luck!

10-01-2008, 09:57 AM	#1
webycricky Banned Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 964 Blog Entries: 20	why are girls so complicated so me and this girl have been friends for while now (keep in mind shes my best friends sister). i always wanted more than friendship with her because shes such a great girl. we have common interests and all, but ive never been good with girls in the case of dating because im more of a shy person. this past summer though, we really hung out alot and eventually we hooked up(not meaning sex). we started to a more intimate and kinda started dating. everything was going great. we went out on dates and seemed like we were basically boyfriend/girlfriend. then it suddenly stopped. we both had other things coming up for school and such. we still talked somewhat but it seemed like it was back to being friends. i knew when we were together she enjoyed being with me. we were both home for a weekend and got together. we hung out, but it was at public events with other people. after that night we hugged and that was it. i was just wondering what other people thought of this situation. i know i Should talk to her about this but i just cant get the courage to do this, or if it would complicate our friendship. i do want more than friendship, but i dont want to lose that. i want to talk to her, even just over IM, but i have no clue what to say at this point. i dont want to sound like just a friend but not too overanxious to talk to her. any thoughts?

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05-03-2009, 02:58 AM	#2
Endurnz Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 16	Thy are on a cycle. It would make the world better if they all had little a little button they had to pin on them that said what day they are on their cycle. The rest of the animal kingdom uses scent for this. Humans lost it a long time ago. It would be great to bring it back. Just a little round button that said day 24. That would be helpful.

02-08-2010, 09:18 AM	#3
WildChild Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 294	There is a little thing called communication. Works pretty well. Give it a try. It does require words and touches and all those things. But with a little practice, it gets easier..

02-25-2010, 08:08 PM	#4
Tabz Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: London Posts: 11	Hmmm, it appears she means a lot to you. Before anything, have you two ever had 'the talk' where you actually tell eachother you like eachother ? If the answer is yes, then this is sorta a good thing i suppose. It would mean that YES she does want to be more then friends, and she likes when you two are togather, and the connection that you two share, however when it stopped, it could be cause she was scared, and thought to herself ' i dont want to ruin the friendship' However, if you two have not had the talk, and you have no discussed your feelings for another, then i would advice you to either TALK TO HER about your EMOTIONS. Or atleast try flirting ? to make it obvious you like her, if she responds GREAT if not... well. Maybe she just does not see you that way. This really depends on the age you are aswell ?If you are on your teens, maybe when the whole cuddling and kissing thing happened, to her it did not mean much, and the reason why she backed up and started being more towards the friend line is because she realised that it was better when you two were friends. Well get back to me with the replies to my question. Good luck!