My problem is that i dont seem to like any of the guys that chase me, i want a guy that i'm totally into that i like enough to chase, but...

I seem to be getting the impression from the women i talk to, and the ****py books i read like "he's just not that into you" that you have to wait for the man to chase you, a woman that does the chasing won't get anywhere and will more than likely scare the guy off, even if she is calm and cool in her chase.

but why shud i wait around for a guy to do the asking, if i like him why can't i go and get him?