alanstalk

I'm not giving advice, I need it! I'm 25 years old and female and i've had a lot of bad luck with guys. I'm a good looking girl, guys are always interested in me, however i usually not mutually interested in them. Anyway i met this guy recently that i have a lot in common with and i really like...btw i found out that he just got out of a long term relationship so i've been wary of liking him to begin with.
Anyway, Here is my problem:

FYI this is going to sound very middle school.
I recently met a guy that i really like. We have only hung out a four or five times but usually text each other throughout the week. Each time we hang out, it is always on the week-end out at a party or a bar. The second time we hung out he kissed me good-bye. The third time we hung out, i was kind of drunk and we were making out at the bar and then went to a party late at night...where we made-out some more. Last week-end we met up and i was determined to just go out for an hour or two and NOT get drunk and NOT make-out with him at the bar and then go home.

The problem was that when i met him, he wanted to dance with me and i felt really uncomfortable so i started drinking- a bit too much. Yes, i know this was a mistake. However, every time he tried to make-out with me i told him no-and he told me he respected that. I told him we should hang out sometime when we are not drinking. He then asked me out on a date this Thursday! I was really excited b/c i really like this guy and usually i never like the guys that like me.

Olivia-Grace

Im just taking a guess that nyour from the UK but i may be wrong . The thing is here ..after reading this i did take into consideration your age ...this guy your talking about should rally have a car and presumably a decent job im guessing just by your age he is a few years older as most 25 year olds i know i did and most of my girlfriends at that age would date a guy a couple of years older or one or two ..which should make him nearing thirty . If hes decent or has anything about him he should have called you by now and indeed after the first time you met and asked you on a "proper date" not a date to a party or where lots of people are say for a meal or whatever and a glass of wine or a nice pub not parties or somewhere he has the oportunity for a wquick move in .. I think you need to gain some confidence try a new outfit or hairstyle ..and stop letting this guy put you in a position where he can "make out" with you . If i wasnt happy with the first date or his behaviour i really wouldnt see a guy again and he should have the confidence to take you out properly on a nice date and call round for you and do the same again ..if you have these worrying questions about this or need to ask a guy i would just just trust your own instinct and say to yourself ..this guy *aint Kosher* and sounds like he lacks confidence .if hes just come out of a long term relationship theres no reason he wouldnt want another girlfriend as all woman are different ..dosent make you the same as her but there is the chance he needs to chill and take stock ...

Olivia-Grace

Just add one more thing you state your good looking and guys are always interested but your not mutually interested in them !!?? this is an unusual comment ? is there a reason for this ? are you fully attracted to men if not dont date till you have clear feelings regarding if you want to be with a man as it wouldnt be fair to the guy ..if something bad has happend try to forget it ..if you find you carnt id have a look round for some type of councilling.

Olivia-Grace

A stalk ..i think you are confused in some posts your a woman in others a man ..id say councilling was the best option ...perhaps somebody who can deal with gender issues !

David1

Yeah . . . true