i hope some folks in here can help me with a situation i'm in, 'cause i don't really know what to do.

i'm a 22 year old, young, attractive, gay guy. i occasionally frequent gay bars, but it's usually just to get drunk and not really to hook up (in other words, i've never hooked up with someone at a gay bar). every time i've gone into the bar over the past month or two, there's been a door-guy/bar-back who works that that i find absolutely adorable. i've chit-chatted with him a few times, including one exchange where he pinched my nipple... but whatever, but it's always too busy and loud to really attempt a decent conversation.

this thursday, i went in with some friends and had a chance to exchange some words with the guy. later on in the night, as he was passing my group of friends (who know i'm kind of crushing), one of my friends asked him his name.

now, i KNOW this will come across as creepy, but i'm pretty sure most everyone else does it - i ended up searching the guy up on facebook and found his profile. and now the dilemma.

i leave in three weeks for college (out of state). i'm not looking for a hook-up; i genuinely want to get to know the guy, even if it's just friends. but i feel like i can't really take the risk of going out night after night HOPING there's a chance for me to talk with the guy, not to mention i'm not exactly loaded, so i can't afford drinks that often. i want to message him on facebook, but i know that comes across as lacking confidence. i'd totally be down for asking him out in person... if he wasn't working and obviously busy. what can i say, i respect someone's work ethic.