Originally Posted by super1day

Hello,

So I feel I am too young to be having this problem! Erection problems. I have never had problems in the past and my ex girlfriend used to joke about how easy it was to get me fully hard; it was instant. Then "bam" I couldn't get hard anymore. I can get somewhat hard but not a full erection. If I do get a full erection its gone within seconds. When this happens I freak out, which probably makes the situation worse, and I can't focus on anything else. I have done research and can't get a concrete solution to this problem. Hello Chris ...first of all ..dont worry to much ..im sure you may of heard this before but all guys of all ages can experience this at any time for any reason ...dont let this upset you in any way becuse the more you worry it gets to be a vicious circle ..can i tell you what i think ? ..ok, so you split with your girlfriend ...sorry to hear that but im sure there is lots of girls wanting to get to know you right now ..so please do stay positive ...you didnt say if you were experiencing erection problems when you were with a woman or if you were just alone or both ? the reason i say this is because if this was happening when you are with a new partner it is known as performance anxiety ...in short its normal for most men with a new partner girlfriend ect ..just like the woman they can be nervous as they feel they want to please thier partner and make it nice but just a little general nerves come into it then ..and its easy if not concentrating just to loose the erection ..just bare with that ..take some time for more foreplay and do not panic or feel shy because if you try to forget that ..the erection should return as you spend some time out for a while, you know what i mean ....lots of people are tempted to drink a little ..a glass or two of wine is lovely but lots and lots of beer or a little too much to chill with can effect erection and thats normal ..lots of women are understanding that so dont worry . Ok the next thing you say stress that can be a major factor ..try to identify why ..exams ? work? parents ? girlfriend problems or upset over something? just some of the things but these will go away in time and you can see a doc if you ant to talk about whats troubling you or if there is anything upsetting you ..do you miss your ex girlfriend ...i can understand that too and that can effect things for a little bit . Things like this happen to women too obviously not the erection ..but as far as orgasm is concerned ..lots of men ometimes think if the woman has not orgasm they dont feel as if they are pleasing her or a good lover ..when in fact it could be the reasons ive mentioned for a guy or she likes to be touched in a certain way or a certain place ! but feels a little shy how to explain to the new boyfriend or guy exactly what she like and would let her achieve an orgasm ...some guys can be quite touchy about this because if you suddenly ask or start doing too many positions when you first meet some guys can view this as over confidence inbed or assume the lady has had many lovers !! which may not be true ...that makes the guy feel angry and he can assume his partner is promiscuous when its not true ...i would say when you are with your lady ..without having intercouse just try kissing or touching ..a little mutual stuff and if you both say ..we wont have full sex ..but try this and that ..then hopefully the pressure will be off you ..now if you feel you carnt get erection alone ..make sure you are in a situation were you are totally private ..for some time ..you are not rushed and nobody will bother you by phone..sms or anything else ...and try to thing about something that arouses you or maybe perhaps a dvd or something of your choice ..i know this will get better for you so dont worry ..but if you are eeing a dr just for a general check might ease your mind .

Best wishes ....apologies ...just tried to post this and it says message too short hope these last words have made it a bit longer so it will post ..at leat i thought it would post has it ??

I am only 24, why is this happening?...........or do i have to type them here ???
Stress? I am going through some major stress right now, but hate to blame stress for problems. Who isn't going through stress??
Poor diet?
Not enough exercise?
Just a phase?
Go see a doctor?

It' very embarassing and confusing.

Anyone else have or had this problem?
Any advice or thoughts would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you,
Chris