Hello Hugo - i do hope that you don't mind a woman replying to your post but i also hope, of course that you do get posts from guys and the male opinions. Im sorry your experiencing some anxiety within your personal life and im by no means qualified to give the best words to you ...im not a dr or in fact im not married but these are just my thoughts...you have been married for 11 years and as you state you are of course very much in love with your wife and im sure your wife too ..your question ? ..yes five months is a long time ...and i understand that must be difficult ..when you say *normal* i just thought ..when you think about this .."what is normal" ?? to me ...and if i was married perhaps 3 times a week ..or of course the moment can be spontaneous ! so perhaps even more ..i think it can depend on a womans sex drive ...but then agin i say all this but im not married so not nwith someone for eleven years ..but i dont want to sound in any way cruel or hurtful but im sure that when people marry but i dont know not all, the passion or the crazy lust that the couple has settles a little as you go on in your married life some couples find that boredom or the fact they know each others bodies so well and each others habits ..that excitement dies a little ..now you have a young son ..it could be that your wife needs to carefully divide her attention between both of you ...i mean its important to show a guy that hes very much loved and wanted and desired ...just as a woman requires that !! or i would wish that ..it dosent have to mean expensive gifts or gifts of anything ..i love you..really means so much to both ...i wish i could give better advice but obviously im just going by your post ..is your wife a passionate woman ...? or was she before now suddenly it changed ? maybe she is tired but is she out of shape ..if so its important nto stay trim and keep energetic ..to give lots of love to the husband and of course keep up with the houswork and look after the kids ..some woman find these tasks very tiring and others dont ! every woman is different ! perhaps the spark has just fizzled out i dont know but stress really shouldnt be a reason actually the other way around stess can make a person feel very aroused !...i hope you can work it out but its best to say look i want to speak to you ...we must talk ..avoiding it will only make it worse ..hope things improve