I am 32 years old and married for 8 years. Our first child is 1 year old. We currently have sex about once a month, largely due to a lack of sleep... The problem now is that I orgasm before I have even penetrated properly with obvious embarrasing consequences. I think it is due to too much friction trying to penetrate and not enough lubrication, although we do foreplay. There is also no way that I can have a second erection within an hour. Is this a problem in itself? We have never used lubrication before. What is a safe lubricant and can I get it from a pharmacy?