oh man that sucks... yeah, i sometimes need some push to get into it but its great when it starts its just starting that some women need more push. Why wont she shave? Hum and she doesnt return the favor, humm. I think if you can get in the rutine of showering together, or baths together then you will want to put everything in your mouth lol, and its so clean and slippery and fun! As a woman thats my favorite place to do it!