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Originally Posted by alvin
Nope, never hangs out with them alone. In fact she's
always getting on me if i leave her alone when at my family's
house or at family gatherings.
I think she just fears that she's so Boring and that she has nothing
interesting to talk about and fears being unliked by my Mom. Not
so with my Dad, she loves my Dad and he loves her. She's more herself
with my Dad, not so with my Mom.
Yeah, I knew she was Shy when we 1st met and I come from a background of shyness so i understand. Maybe we just need to hang out
with them more so she can get to know them more.
She's never brought anything to my attention (and she would) that
would make her feel uncomfortable. i seriously am thinking right now that
she just needs to hang with my Mom more so that she'll feel more
comfortable.
It happens this way with friends though too. friends of mine that she considers
"cool", she's afraid to hang with for fear of having nothing to say.
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This is the thing that I noticed. When I was married, it was to the eldest of the parent's sons and the one that was closer to the dad. My friend ended up marrying the younger one who was closest to the mom a couple years later. I had always gotten along with the mom and thought she was a sweetheart. My friend confided in me after one of the MIL's visits that she was constantly being ridiculously catty and snide to her unless her husband was in the room. If he was around, she was all smiles and cheery, but the moment he was elsewhere.......watchout! I thought she was making it all up. I had known the woman for three years and she was never anything but nice.
That was till I had the first grandkid. Thats when I got to see it for myself. We were constantly in battle! Its not that she is a horrible woman; just in a bad personal situation and I was an easy target at the time (so she thought). Now we get along very well even though I am no longer married to her son and I think its because she is a much happier person now. But back then, my friend had been raised in a very conservative Asian home and it just wasn't in her nature to stand up for herself; the MIL used that to her advantage.
Just putting it out there for consideration. Your mom loves you and treats you like family, you don't necessarily know how she treats people she doesn't think of as family.