O.k. maybe not "scared" but kinda uncomfortable
in her presence. My Mom has a little baby temper maybe and
yeah, my wife has seen it, But my Mom has always been
very nice & loving to my Wife over the last 8 years, never
been mean to her or hurt her feelings, nothing.

Could be because my wife lacks a lot of the good old
"Self Confidence"...

Long story short, i resent it sometimes because I do a very
good job at making sure i'm respectful to her parents, talk
to them, get to know them, do things for them, etc. My wife
on the other hand, doesn't really try too hard with my parents.
She doesn't go any extra miles (if she was worried about them
liking her, which they DO) to try and say hello on an off day or
anything like that. She's not ever disrespectful toward them, she's
just a shy gal, but whenever we're with Her fam, she's loud.
Whenever it's just the two of us, she's loud.

Bottom Line: i'm just getting a little tired out over it. I hate trying
to convince her that my parents like her (they tell her they do) and
I get bummed out that she's so uncomfortable at my parent's house.
She doesn't talk sometimes. I know it shouldn't matter, but it
does to me. We had a disagreement today and now i'm kinda
in the dog house with her...Only because i told her she's so
negative whenever it comes to talking about going to my
parent's.

am i being too dumb? should I not care about this?